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PQ: Can you teach me how to find a girlfriend when I grow up?

Can you teach me how to find a girlfriend when I grow up? I don’t want to be lonely!

Sometimes it seems like everywhere you look, you see couples. You might see them walking hand-in-hand down your street or even kissing in movies or on TV shows. So it’s common to wonder how you will get your very own girlfriend (or boyfriend) when you are older. How will someone decide that you are a very special person worth spending more time with?

The good news is that it usually happens pretty naturally. As you grow up, girls and boys get more and more interested in one another. In the teen years, many kids want to experience what it’s like to go on dates and be part of a couple. So someday you might meet someone in school or at a party and develop an interest in her. Maybe the two of you will talk or exchange phone numbers — or even discover that you both like the exact same music groups.

Next comes the tricky part. When feelings are mutual — you both are interested in each other in the same way — things work can work out pretty well. But sometimes the girl you like only likes you as a friend or already has a boyfriend. Sigh. What can you do then? Keep hanging out with your friends and having a good time. Try not to be too focused on getting a girlfriend and you just might meet someone special when you least expect it!

Reviewed by: Mary L. Gavin, MD
Date reviewed: June 2013

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